All parents make mistakes. Whether your brand new to parenting, or your on number 5; it’s inevitable that you’re going to get frustrated and make irrational decisions. The truth is there is no formula to being a parent, but people tend to compare themselves to what they believe is an expert caregiver. You should absolutely take advice from others with experience, but if you want your child to have a unique upbringing it’s going to come from being yourself and not trying to be perfect all the time. Here are some very common mistakes I see happening frequently:
(It’s okay to make mistakes)
- Expecting your ‘time off work’ to actually be time off – People often feel overwhelmed when they are unprepared to be spending just as much time and energy looking after their newborn as they did at work. You aren’t taking time off to relax, your focus is shifting towards your child instead of workplace, not to a lawn chair on the beach. Honestly the real challenge comes when you have to go back to work; you do have more experience at this point, but you have to manage both jobs at the same time.
- Assuming there is always something major wrong – I’m not saying you shouldn’t be concerned, every parent with a newborn needs to visit their local clinic regularly for check-ups. However every baby is going to experience issues that lead the parent to believe it’s worse than it actually is. Common health challenges such as: Diarrhea, vomiting, coughing and skin discoloring is likely going to occur, even with the healthiest of children.
- Avoiding sleep when your baby sleeps – I touched on this one in my post: How to survive the no sleep phase, this is something just about everyone goes through. There is always so much to do aside from looking after your child that gets neglected; dishes, vacuuming, feeding yourself, etc. Your time is often managed poorly in the beginning so it is seen as an opportunity once their asleep to get your household chores done. Unfortunately it’s not the best time because this is your only chance to get proper rest. You don’t necessarily need as much sleep as your baby, but you sure as hell aren’t sleeping while they’re awake, so get your snooze in when you can.
- Believing everything people say – This was kind of explained in my introduction to this post. There is no magic formula to raising a child, nor do other parents know everything about parenting, even if it seems like they do. Your children will grow up in the environment you choose, there is no right or wrong. Yes there is questionable methods and decisions people make but it’s never “wrong”. Unless they’re neglecting their child, then it’s wrong.
Just a few more tips for you guys to soak in, as I try mention as much as I can, if you’re having troubles feel free to contact us, and I will give you my personal opinions along with what’s worked well for me. Hope you all have a good day, it’s currently the middle of the night, and I couldn’t sleep. Writing always does the trick though, off to have a nice siesta.