I always knew before becoming a father that it would take me longer than the mom to really connect with our child. Of course transitioning from a regular guy to a father changes you; there’s no question about that, but I’ve realized after actually doing it that it’s not an instant thing. Not all but most fathers change over the course of a year or two. In the beginning you don’t really relate to the baby, and you’re still not really use to the fact that you can call yourself a dad. Things start really sinking in after you’ve spent thousands of hours caring for your newborn.
Before your child is born, you may feel a sense of worry, panic and anxiety – this is totally normal and you can expect to feel this way. It’s almost weird if you don’t feel any of these emotions actually because you really don’t know what’s coming. Know that when your baby comes out, you and your spouses emotions are going to be very high, and all of those negative feelings are going to go right out the window. All you’ll be able to think about is how lucky you are to have what you have; it’s truly a beautiful feeling.
Will I be able to efficiently take care of my child?
I spend a lot of time on this blog trying to emphasize the fact that most parents are harder on themselves than necessary. I want to ease your mind so that you can spend that energy looking after your child, instead of worrying. This is a question almost every parent asks themselves at one point or another. You can use my posts as a way of feeling comfortable, yes, you are going to do great. You will make mistakes, and their will be hardships, but remember that just even the fact that you’re online finding information like this means you care, and you won’t be a bad parent. I do recommend you take some kind of parenting classes so you are properly educated, just don’t beat yourself up over the emotions your feeling, everyone goes through it.